Anger is a big emotional issue in the adolescent days and managing it seems to be even bigger. But children who can manage their anger can handle their fears as well as their other emotions can have a healthy life.
Basically in four ways anger is dealt with. However, only the last one on the list is said to be healthy.
Muzzling anger- here it is said to bury your anger that will finally make an exit for the anger. But for most of the children, this doesn’t work since anger doesn’t go away totally.
Muscling anger- some adolescents lash out physically for making their parents, siblings or friends can feel their anger literally.
Mouthing anger- generally verbal abuse is painful as it backfires the person who is angry.
Managing anger- anger can also be given a vent by ways that don’t hurt anyone including the ones who are angry.
The 5 steps that are the components of an anger management program for teenagers:
Recognizing anger: help your child recognize when they are getting angry. Point out the thoughts in their minds and their physical signs.
Naming anger: coin a phrase when your child is getting angry. Phrases like ‘short fuse’, ‘mad as a snake’ may calm him down.
Choosing anger: make you child recognize that they can either be in control or lose their control.
Saying anger: encourage your child to give expressions to his anger. This is a healthy thing to do. But shouting at somebody when your child is not angry is just the opposite.
Let the anger out: help your child to find a vent out for their anger. The many possibilities may include belting a pillow, going for a run or playing a physical game to letting out the frustration.
Teens with Step ParentsReply to this Comment
I have a daughter that is 16. I got remarried about 6 years ago and at first they got along great (she was 10). However, now, there is constant fighting. I think he picks to much and I think she is to mouthy. The combination is horrible. I need help.
Help!Reply to this Comment
Billie, I too am in the same boat as you. Same situation. When I read your posting it felt like I was reading my own nightmare! If you find someone to help, please let me know and I'll do the same for you! Good luck.
Anger ManagementReply to this Comment
Hi -
I have a terrific 16 year old son - well, terrific 75% of the time - but that other 25% is what I'm worried about. I'm looking for a counselor in the NW part of Tucson who can help. We have BC/BS insurance but I just don't know where to find a counselor who is good with teens - any ideas?
teensReply to this Comment
My daughter just started ninth grade, and she hasant seemed herself lately. She is always sad, i try to talk to her about her problems but she just tells me to go away. What do i do?
need info and referenceReply to this Comment
My daughter (16 years-old/twin to a sister) is going through some things I seem useless to help with. She is mean, she seems depressed and more than anything, she seems to have difficulty making healthy friendships. She seems to pick one person and absolutely obsess about the person, usually a girl. I have read about "girl crushes" and this sounds possible, but it has caused problems at school and between me and the parents of the other girls. My daughter seems very immature to me, almost acting in many ways like her 8-year-old brother. I want to help her but know I need to tread carefully in this territory. I do not want to come across as attacking her. Please help.
my sister....Reply to this Comment
my sister and i have been in the middle of a devorce battle for 10 years and she seems to be taking it pretty hard on herself. She dosent feel good about herself and talks about death alot. How can i help her without making her feel worse?
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By:Billie Posted: Jan 03 2007 10:26:00 AM