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i have been seperated for 4 months now i have made every atempt to make things work and she has been telling me she needs time to think about it. now she told me today she has been seeing some else and sleeping with some one else and i found out she has been doing this since i left when she told me to leave our marraige was not good for a long time we lost a child which i never forgave my self for then had another then we lost a close relative that brought back my child loss. all i wanted was my wife back and she doesnt want it. i need help and do know were to get it i have been thinking something terrable but havent done it because i have had my 3 year old with me but goes hope tomorow and i dont know

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I understand what you are going through. I was divorced 5 years ago and it still feels like the end of the world. You and I have a simular story, I know you are hurting and I'm not going to lie to you it doesn't go away quick, but you and your child deserve much better you need to focus on your child , do things with them. Decide its over move on, be friends with ex- wife . Focus on you and the best interest of kids. Try to be as civil as possible. Some things are not fair but its not up to you to make things right. Always remain calm. Eventually you will be better. Find a new friend to confide in. Go to a divorce group, the state court can tell you where there are support groups in your area . The best thing is not to prolong the inevidible, get the divorce over with so you can move on and be happy with someone else one day.