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i have been seperated for 4 months now i have made every atempt to make things work and she has been telling me she needs time to think about it. now she told me today she has been seeing some else and sleeping with some one else and i found out she has been doing this since i left when she told me to leave our marraige was not good for a long time we lost a child which i never forgave my self for then had another then we lost a close relative that brought back my child loss. all i wanted was my wife back and she doesnt want it. i need help and do know were to get it i have been thinking something terrable but havent done it because i have had my 3 year old with me but goes hope tomorow and i dont know

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I understand what you are going through. I was divorced 5 years ago and it still feels like the end of the world. You and I have a simular story, I know you are hurting and I'm not going to lie to you it doesn't go away quick, but you and your child deserve much better you need to focus on your child , do things with them. Decide its over move on, be friends with ex- wife . Focus on you and the best interest of kids. Try to be as civil as possible. Some things are not fair but its not up to you to make things right. Always remain calm. Eventually you will be better. Find a new friend to confide in. Go to a divorce group, the state court can tell you where there are support groups in your area . The best thing is not to prolong the inevidible, get the divorce over with so you can move on and be happy with someone else one day.

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hi, my wife and i split up in Janaury of 2010, she had me arrested for a domestic dispute. First time in our 10 year marrriage this even happened. We were already talking about splitting up prior to this event. Our relationship had been going sour. No sex life, her traveling to another state to work from time to time. A combination of things. Needless to say i went to jail, was issued a no contact order on top of her extending the restraining order twice. I completed my BIP program, Did not want to go back to her. I wanted a divorce, but hse would refuse to work on a property settlement agreement. She finally agreed to meet at a mediators.. Only to find her with a laywer and 10 motions for dissoltion of marriage and a ton of other things. our business tanked because she would refuse to cooperate as a business partner.. Now she wants alimony for the rest of her life, and a ton of money for the business tanking, the house and all her legal fees. I have a good lawyer and have no problem resolving any of these issues. as i am broke with nothing. But am moving on. What bothers me is how vindictive some people can be. This was supposed to be an amicable seperation. Somewhere along the line she felt she deserved more. ALl i want to do is just move on..This is a very depressing feeling..

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I need to find a divorce care group at a local church. This would be the best thing you could do for yourself. this is truly the answer because I been there and done that. It not easy to move on when you are in pain because someone says that this is what you sould do. Divorce is another form of grief. It is important to move through your grief. Divorce Care also has a website.