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my friend needs help Reply to this Comment i have a a friend that i live with that is bipolar and other things he has a therops that wont help him and med docotor that wont listen to him. the doctor hasnt changed his meds in 4 yrs and he is not right he can not move out of the house unless he needs to all he wants to do is sleep or sit in his chair. he worries me alot and im scared for him this is a man that likes to do things and would like to work but his mind wont let him i would like to know if you can help him if so in what way we live in watertown ny my email is craftygirl856@hotmail.com thank you so much HELP Reply to this Comment Did anyone ever help with this situation, Have things changed? Have you looked at this in a different aspect. I would actually think about it as if I were the one in the chair. What would I want to hear ? What would make me believe I need help or even ask for help ? Questions to ask him are : What are you feeling? Are you fearful of something ? Happening to him ? Is he afraid he is going to hurt himself or someone else ? These are all things to consider very important in these matters. He may be in denial of his situation and need outside help. The doctors or psychs don't really care. They go in and sitdown and the doctor might ask "How are you ? " and they usually respond with Ok, or I am doing well. And the doctor goes on that and keeps writing the scripts time and time again. If nothing has changed and he is still in this condition, You need to seek professional help for him and just Hope for the best with him. People can't go on forever like that sooner or later, you will have a choice to make yourself. You might consider finding a new Place to stay as well. and then maybe that would tell him directly understand that something is happening. Are there any children around this situation ? That would be a tryfull situation too. Good Luck. I wish you the best in your quest for help. Help Reply to this Comment It sounds to me like your rfiend is also depressed. Maybe switching doctors might help. I too am bipolar and it took me almost two years to find the right combination of meds to get under control.I wish you lots of luck. i know what you are going thru. his meds are not working right. i take lithium and i have to have monthly blood work to make sure my levels are okay. i can deal with that. it's better than sitting n my chair and not knowing where i am and thinking about bad things. think about changing his doctor. that might be the best thing for him. Help Me Reply to this Comment I've been told my mom is bi polar and doctors say my sister may be. i have not been checked out but I suffer from depression and my mom believes I may be bi polar. I would really love for someone (therapist or one who has it) to email me so I can talk. My email is XxCry4theGravexX@aim.com bi-polar disorder Reply to this Comment Hi; Have you gone to the bipolar disorder website and taken the test?I did and it helped me as I have always been skeptical about a previous diagnosis.You might also be able to get treatment at marion county mental health,although I have been there and got terriable service.Thankyou,Ron. bi-polar disorder Reply to this Comment My doctor put me on effexor and it helps alot.radiohead@wbcable.net bi polar Reply to this Comment I put in a comment and it says "my doctor put me on effexor".This was for bi-polar disorder.It is expensive and I am on ssi/ssd and on medicaid,I hope you have insurance. (radiohead@wbcable.net) TWO FOR ONE Reply to this Comment I AM STUCK BETWEEN A CHILD WHO IS CURRENTLY SOBER AND A HUSBAND WHO IS A FUNCTIONING ALCOHOLIC. EACH SEES THE OTHERS FAULTS BUT NOT THEIR OWN. MY HUSBAND GOES TO EXTREMES TO LET MY SON KNOW HE IS BOSS. MY SON IS OFTEN VERY VERBALLY ABUSIVE TOWARD ME BECAUSE HE IS ANGRY WITH MY HUSBAND. MY HUSBAND BLAMES ME FOR MY SONS SUBSTANCE PROBLEMS. I WANT TO GET AWAY FROM THEM BOTH. I FEEL IF I HAVE TO STAY STUCK IN THE MIDDLE OF THE TWO OF THEM I WILL GO CRAZY. Bipolar website Reply to this Comment Whats the address to the bipolar website because I would like to take the test? Make a Choice Today Reply to this Comment If your son is an adult, then I say that you may want to consider doing that very thing. Get the hell out of Dodge, if you will. If your son is still a minor then you are obligated to remain with him and care for him whether it is with or without your raging alcoholic husband, and whether that means placing him in a rehab facility or alternate arrangements. The blame game has no winners. The person responsible for your husband's, and your son's, alcoholism & addiction is each of them respectively. Now maybe you bear some culpability in enabling, but it boils down to them. Sitting on the fence gets you nowhere and puts you in the direct line of fire of either party on either side. Sooner or later you're going to have to get off the fence, whether you take control and do it now on your own terms or later when it's too late for you to make a decided choice. Fury escalates and faster still when fueled by drugs and alcohol. I guess it's up to you to decide when you're full up. I hope it's soon for all of your sakes. You do have choices, even if they are all just as hard as the other. But I'd rather make a hard choice for myself than have someone else make it for me. Wouldn't you? You do deserve happiness, peace and sanity. If you need help starting this new journey, contact Alcoholics Anonymous, they can help you contact Alanon which is for family members of addicts and alcoholics. If anyone can help you, it's probably them. Ron- Bi-Polar Treatment Reply to this Comment Effexor is generally NOT used to treat TRUE and LEGITIMATE Bi-Polar Disorder. Effexor is an anti depressant and does not fully (or even marginally, really) address the problem. Most bi-polar patients find relief using a drug 'cocktail', typically comprised of an anticonvulsant and an antipsychotic. If your doc has you on Effexor then I would suggest you seek a second opinion. Persons who truly suffer from BPD can be thrown into what is known as 'rapid cycling' when using an antidepressant whether on its own or with other meds. Rapid cycling is the vascellation between moods in a far shorter period of time and on a more frequent basis. The point of being medicated is to reduce if not nearly illiminate mood episodes. I don't know if you self diagnosed using the website you mentioned, or if you've actually been seen by a licenesed mental health care provider who has given you a confirmed diagnosis, but a second opinion may be a good idea, to ensure you are indeed receiving proper, healthy treatment that will benefit your life. Abuse Reply to this Comment There are many resources avaiable to help someone leave an abusive situation. If you call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 i am bipolar Reply to this Comment every day is a fight... everyday is living hell.. bing in a diffrent mood at any moment.... some one plzzz help me.... I am Bi-polar Reply to this Comment Hi I have the same feelings. I know it is living hell with this disorder. It is hard to be with a person with bipolar. Everyday I wake up I know that its not gonna be a good day. Its hard living with myself. Sometimes I feel like there is no use of me being here. I have a two year old and after 6 years with this disorder I know I need help. Bipolar Disorder Reply to this Comment I have bipolar disorder. I didn't take the test from the bipolar website until after my doctor told me what he thought may be my problem. The only problem with all this different drugs is that everything is so expensive. Not to mention you have to find a doctor that takes your insurance and is accepting new patients. That is what I am doing, I have been on a combination of Depakote and effexor and the combination has worked, however we have had to up the doses a few times and now my doctor won't see me and I am out of meds. I went to my insurance website and found a list of doctors and got discouraged after calling about 10 that either said they weren't accepting new patients or didn't treat bipolar disorder. I know why people that have this disorder give up, I am just glad that I am a strong enough person to not break down and I am still pushing to find someone to help me. See I have learned to not sweat the small stuff since I have been through so much in my life, it is hard and like right now, sometimes I feel like I could throw up and my chest gets all tight when I am trying to control my anger. Walking away really does help, I don't think this is enough though I need meds and what am I supposed to do since no doctors are accepting new patients and the mental health places only provide counseling. I have been through counseling and it just pisses me off worse, the past is the past and it needs to be left in the past. I think about my past when I making decisions with my children and it makes me a better decision maker because there is no way that bipolar disorder will stand in my way of raising my kids well and doing everything I possibly can for them. It is not their fault I have a disorder and they shouldn't have to deal with it. They still have the burden of seeing mommy upset but I am just glad I can control it to the point I do not hurt others or myself. I even went back to school, didn't finish but I am 7 classes from a bachelors and am doing everything I can to go back. I have trouble with jobs because when someone says something to me sometimes I let it get to me and quit my job. Right now I just need to know if I have any options besides having to drive 50 miles to the nearest doctor. This tightness in my chest is enough pain to make me cry. Can someone tell me what kind of doctors I can go to for help besides psychs cause I spilled my guts all through my teenage years and the only thing that helped me is to keep telling my self that I can do it no matter what everyone else says. Bipolar Disorder Reply to this Comment I was diagnosed with Bipolar about 12 years ago. I know how all of you feel. I have been on more meds than I care to think about. After about 3 years they got the cocktail right. Then after about a year it all went to hell and the meds stopped working. This happens about every year now and they change my cocktail. I have tried to commit suicide 3 times and have failed. Thank God.I have been in and out of hospitals. For Jennifer, try to find a state funded clinic in your area. Call another doctor if you have to to get a number for this information.You cant keep going on without your meds. All I know is what I have been through and I cant do anything without my meds. I raised two children with this disease but I did do some mental harm to them. I am not at all a nice person without my meds. The anger takes over and I take it out on those around me.The ups and downs were an every day thing. I would be up for a couple days then crash hard for the next few days then up,down,up,down. I am sever dipolar. It seems that as the years go by, I get worse. I am suggesting to all of you who are bipolar and not getting help to do all you can, no matter what,to get the help and meds you need.If anyone wants to talk or just need a question answered, my email is kthompson0210@yahoo.com. Please feel free to email me. I have been doing this for a long time and have learned a lot. misdiagnosed Reply to this Comment It takes an average of 20 years for a person with bipolar disorder to be correctly diagnosed. For me it took eight. Since I was 15 until about six months ago I had been diagnosed as having depression, and had been put on every SSRI antidepressant you can name. Each one did the same thing-I would become incredibly impulsive, I wouldn't eat, and I would be up for days at a time. The doctors all dismissed these symptoms as bad side effects. No one seemed to think there was a problem when whenever I would be put on an antidepressant I would have to be given a sedative as well to be able to sleep at night. I finally found a doctor who actually listened to what I had to say and realized these were not "bad side effects," but were instead induced rapid cycling manic episodes. Medications for bipolar disorder can be expensive, and I'm finally getting insurance at the end of this week so I'll be able to try something that has a better chance of working. I'll be trying Lamictal and I have never felt so hopeful as I do now. It makes me feel disgusted to think about all the money I impulsivly wasted when I would go through manic episodes. The years I wasted and will never be able to get back. I flunked out of college because I couldn't concentrate due to the racing and irrational thoughts. The point is, if you feel like there is more to your depression than what doctors think, make them listen. I wish I had been more confident that they were wrong about my diagnosis. Bipolar Reply to this Comment Im bipolar and I usually feel like everything is madness. I never know how im going to feel and my mood changes so much in one day. I could be thinking of suicide while at the same time subconsciously thinking about something else which involves me living. I feel like I cant escape fate, I feel like im probably going to die young either way. Probably from drugs or something crazy. Then the next day I wake up and all these thoughts are pouring into my head and I dont have to try to create anything. Im this writer and I feel more creative then ever, and im just waiting for what life throws at me.Im alive and life seems alright. This doesnt last long because extream agitation and deppresion follows after. Its a crazy roller coaster. I understand what its like to deal with this. I think I have found that you have to try to fine something you love and stick with it no matter what. It gives you reason. | ||||||||
By:karla Posted: Apr 01 2007 01:17:35 PM