Life is a choice              Reply to this Comment

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Plain and simply life is a choice. Or better said it is your choice. Man himself the maker of himself. We are all the creators of our realities. The thinkers of our thoughts. And unltimately the architects of our destinies. I know how helpless and hopeless a person can feel. I've walked through valleys so dark with despair and seemingly without a light of escape that life seemed done. There are still loving and wonderful people who are willing to lend a helping heart to a fellow human truly just as an act of kindness. First you must think positive. My dad always told me that "can't never did sh#t". A negative attitude gets you absolutely nowhere; so motivate yourself. Think positive, everything else is old. Work hard and never stop hustling.Develop a few short term goals; they need not be as high as mountains, only something to look forward to. Read a book or even a chapter. Try something new. Or even help somebody (stranger or someone you know) . For only when we dare to dream can we truly awake.I am a 21 year old male who lives in the baton rouge area. I began using psychoactive drugs at 12 years old. For the past 6 years I have developed a physical and psychological opoid habit/addiction (went from curious to serious) . I still maintain, but periodically question its ultimate role in my life. I have a job and I'm in the process of finishing college. Anyone interested in talking feel free to email me at stillremainsane@aol.com. Keep your eyes on the road, with your hands on the wheel Always, AARON

unapriated :)              Reply to this Comment

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Hello i was buble abuse when i was a little girl verbaily and fisiqly Not sexualy just hit me whith the belt . never had much atention whith my parents i was always rebalius. when i grew up at the age of 16 i had to drop of school to help ouy my parents.. saad to say but my dad never had a steady job. anso one day my mom was crying telling me that she neded more money from me. well i said mom i make the minumum wage i cant give out more. THERN my dad steps in and tells me "you thinh that what you give us is alot? well we dont uprieated waht you gives it is nothing. then i repoded i should be in school now. he said what school? what school? just work and give us more money. we were 6 kids in our family at this point i was the only one left living whith then. so anyway. i got married... my husband aklo has said things that he things ihe does not appreted that i am not good enough i am a house wife now i have 2 yr old son and 5 year and a teen. so i have no choice then to stay home. he does not give me any money he does pay medical pills and some clthes and one time i asked him why dont you have me in your back account? he said idont trust you... i swear i am nota peron to take money and spen it just like that. andyways i had the helleast Christamas this year 2996 :( Never never had a bad christmas i am very sad and stessed out my mother and law we got alone good for the past 16 years we were cookinhg all day dec 25 th i asked him what do you wabt to eat? he said nothing But my shoulder has being hurting alot. and tjhen at dinner time he was acting like NEVER before he saidi have to make the salsa you dont make it the way you suppose to! you didnt put cilantro last time and i am hungry. I was studed that he was acting so weird in front of his mom. so i said well then you make your self... by then i was getting stressed out and mad. then his mkom said"well you and Janelle " < my teen were not good enough to massage him and feed him! i said excuse me? you know you are inm y house and i was not to let you do all cooking all by yourself i dont that would be appropiet. and whay do you insult me like that?!!! she said becuse he is in pain and hungry.. I said "look i dont think that you shopuld talk to me like this second i was not to let you do all the cooking all by your self... next thing you are going to your other son and tell them like you tell me that they have you like a maid! so dont tell me this. that i was not good enough.now i am taken xanas my husband defeneded her and said she was right. i saidf not in my house! he said is m7y house ! i yes! it is BUT she is not my mother even if she was thats not how to speak to anyone. . please anyonethat i can talk to about this is this a self esteem issue? should i ask the doctor for therapist talk? please email me and put in subject about stress thank you very much yours truely and sadky Teresa God Bless please pray for me. love you happy new year.

unapriated part #2              Reply to this Comment

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i fogot my email Tjim90604@aol.com please write about unapresated. thank you again. Teresa

chigger              Reply to this Comment

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all chiggers should die

Chiggers              Reply to this Comment

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Bug off! Think we're so dense we can't read your encrypted message????

stressed              Reply to this Comment

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I am having trouble with stress and depression. I am a stay at home mom of a 2yrold and 4 yr old. I have have been battling depression for 2 yrs but here recently it has gotten worst. My husband informed me last night that i am worthless, i do not do anything around the house .I am just ready to leave so i can quit messing up his life. Have no one to turn to what do i do???? Please help

stress              Reply to this Comment

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Hi Tosha - Its common to blame yourself, but you need people around you who understand you. Mail me at tanisstu@hotmail.com if you want to talk - I have lost friends who have felt the same way. You aren't worthless, you need support and a shoulder to cry on. Its OK to feel weak, and scared- but you are never worthless.

Relationship              Reply to this Comment

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I need help with my relationship

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What kind of help ?

depression              Reply to this Comment

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Gee, that was nice of hubby to tell you that. I bet that made you feel much better. NOT! Listen girl, get off the couch, call up your girlfriend, pack up the kids, and head for the shopping mall! Spend a day having fun - go buy some new threads, get the kids some ice cream, and forget your problems. The following week, take a trip to the zoo. The week after that go the museum. After several weeks if you still feel depressed, make an appt. with a counselor. But start with a the 1st step, do something nice & fun for yourself!

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for this young lady first I will tell you, pray not only for your husband but your mother inlaw also. Then I would let you know that stress will make you go crazy if you let it. I need to know if you made a mistake in your writting or because you didnt have a chance to attend school? If so I would like to offer my help. My husband wrote like this also but now he's getting better because I've been helping him with it. By using different books and flash cards.So if you would like my help just email me at theladieharris@sbcglobal.net

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Hi I am a white female 46 yrs old and I cant seem to be anyone, we are going thru so many things I had 15 surgeries, I had cancer was one and i am a 18 yr diabetic I have 3 adult children and 2 grand children, My husband is great but I fell I cant talk to him because he really dont listen. I cry all the time my son was an alcoholic and had a bad van accident in sept of 2006 he was 20 then . he was burned 44% of his lover body he was in a coma for 3 months we came home caring for him November 29 2006 it was a hard time very expensive and I have hidden so much inside me from being in the hospital with him alone i seen everything. my daughter my first born got divorced and now fighting for her son who is now marrried he wants my grand son to have nothing to do with any grandparent or his mom they have joint custody and his new wife has comments that arent right! my other daughter well she keeps to her self she found out she cant have anymore children my son is doing good by the way. he and his gal is trying to have babies also they did find out that since he was burnt there he night not be able to have children and she has hormone problems I dont know i feel so worless and my sister says I havent let my mom go she lived with us since 1980 - 2001 she pasted away 1/2 hr before her birthday we went thru everything she was my best friend and we went thru our cancer together she had lung cancer and I had breast cancer I know God is there there is just things I cant say and I need help

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Hi I am a white female 46 yrs old and I cant seem to be anyone, we are going thru so many things I had 15 surgeries, I had cancer was one and i am a 18 yr diabetic I have 3 adult children and 2 grand children, My husband is great but I fell I cant talk to him because he really dont listen. I cry all the time my son was an alcoholic and had a bad van accident in sept of 2006 he was 20 then . he was burned 44% of his lover body he was in a coma for 3 months we came home caring for him November 29 2006 it was a hard time very expensive and I have hidden so much inside me from being in the hospital with him alone i seen everything. my daughter my first born got divorced and now fighting for her son who is now marrried he wants my grand son to have nothing to do with any grandparent or his mom they have joint custody and his new wife has comments that arent right! my other daughter well she keeps to her self she found out she cant have anymore children my son is doing good by the way. he and his gal is trying to have babies also they did find out that since he was burnt there he night not be able to have children and she has hormone problems I dont know i feel so worless and my sister says I havent let my mom go she lived with us since 1980 - 2001 she pasted away 1/2 hr before her birthday we went thru everything she was my best friend and we went thru our cancer together she had lung cancer and I had breast cancer I know God is there there is just things I cant say and I need help by_faith1961@yahoo.com

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Hi I am a white female 46 yrs old and I cant seem to be anyone, we are going thru so many things I had 15 surgeries, I had cancer was one and i am a 18 yr diabetic I have 3 adult children and 2 grand children, My husband is great but I fell I cant talk to him because he really dont listen. I cry all the time my son was an alcoholic and had a bad van accident in sept of 2006 he was 20 then . he was burned 44% of his lover body he was in a coma for 3 months we came home caring for him November 29 2006 it was a hard time very expensive and I have hidden so much inside me from being in the hospital with him alone i seen everything. my daughter my first born got divorced and now fighting for her son who is now marrried he wants my grand son to have nothing to do with any grandparent or his mom they have joint custody and his new wife has comments that arent right! my other daughter well she keeps to her self she found out she cant have anymore children my son is doing good by the way. he and his gal is trying to have babies also they did find out that since he was burnt there he night not be able to have children and she has hormone problems I dont know i feel so worless and my sister says I havent let my mom go she lived with us since 1980 - 2001 she pasted away 1/2 hr before her birthday we went thru everything she was my best friend and we went thru our cancer together she had lung cancer and I had breast cancer I know God is there there is just things I cant say and I need help by_faith1961@yahoo.com

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I know how you feel first you should sit down and talk to your husband about the problems and how you feel about how he makes you feel If he doesn't listen i would give him some time to think about it and if he still acts the same you do not deserve that type of stress espically if you have kids and you two argue alot your kids dont need that because in the end you will be hurting your kids. I hope this was some help to you hope everything works out

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I have a 4 year old a 4 month old and a questionable marriage.. (hes not abusive just getting along issues) I feel like I can't be enough for my husband.. I feel like I can't handle by 4 year old anymore i know her behavior is my fault she treats eveyone like i treat my husband.. sassy. mean. yealling taling back degrating.. i don't want to be this way i love my family but sometimes i feel like i'm such a failure.. I know i've made mistakes raising her and i look at her and cry because i feel like i've taken her inocents away by making her behave like a "big girl" she acts and talks like hes 7. and i fight with her all the time.. is it normal to love your kid so much but sometimes get so mad you want to just get away from her? I work 12 hours a day and all i want is my perfect happy little family that i never got growing up.. but for some reason i can' hve that.. thank god my 4 month old is a good baby.. is this post partum?? or do i hate my daughter.. my husband.. myself?? i just don't know what to do anymore.... i can't stop yelling but i dont want to me medicated all the time..

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i know how you feel but i dont even see michael anymore so just hang in,people that stay around you love you so at least you got that. i have a terible addiction problem that was destroying my life but i have found the strength in my higher power to get by, start to soul search and try prayer,he is listening (i am proof) thats all i got!

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What do you do when the people in your life who are supposed to care about you betray you? I am 23 yrs. old and have always had to look after my mother and my younger brother. I have done so much for them and I get no thanks or appreciation. Recently my husband and I were making out a living will in the event anything should ever happen to both of us, our 2 yr. old daughter would be protected and my mom got so angry because she felt like we were trying to control her and take away her life and freedom by giving her custody of our child in the event of our deaths. She was actually crying saying it wasn't fair to her that our life insurance would be set aside for our daughter! She didn't even stop to think what life might be like for our daughter if she lost us let alone the fact that if this all happened, my husband and I would be dead! All she can ever think about is herself and I can't take it anymore! When do you say enough is enough and stop ruining my life and leave me alone? Is it even worth trying to work it out? All I know is that if something doesn't change I'm either going to have a nervous breakdown or a heart attack!I need some advice because I'm just so angry all the time I don't know what to do.

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I have heard your situation multiple times. You are not alone in your struggle. One of the things that you will have to work through is what is the loss associated with rejecting your mother? Where will you find other supports? Keeping your family at a distance while you build your new family. Your age usually does not grant you much credit in families, however if you have been the caretaker for years they may see you as that but there is also an enabling pattern to watch out for. Remember in this situation you are not able to change your mother and the only one you can truly work on is yourself. You may find some support while you work through distancing yourself from your mother through therapy. Check out one of our therapists at www.generationscss.com. I wish you well in dealing with this complex and stressful situation.

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All my life as far as I can remember, I've never had a real father or mother figure in my life. My father had a bad temper. I would'nt really call him abusive in a physical way, but mentaly. At the age of 8 I was told by my father, and his parents that certain people didnt love me, that there are no such things as friends and that I would never have any. At the same time my mother was always going out with her friends, leaving me with my mamaw. I was very close to my mamaw until one day when she left. Til this day I am still uncertain why she left us. She is back in my life now after 10 years, I love her dearly. During those 10 years my mother had divorced 4 times. Finally she settled down with a man that didnt treat us good at all. He was abusive mentaly and physicaly. He would get in our faces while he would scream, push us around, throw us, and make us his slaves. While I was in high school, at the end of my sophomore year, off and on to the end of my junior year, my mom and step father would allow me to drink. I would have partys and everything. I got to the point to where I had the thought that I was becoming an alcoholic. I suffered from depression, so that made my drinking worse. The summer before my senior year, I found out that I was pregnant from a boy that I had been dating for 2 years. Still attending school, I graduated 1 month after giving birth. My mother moved 6 hours away 1 week and 3 days after I had my son, leaving me with no where else to go, I moved in with my boyfriend. I now have no family to talk to and the ones that I do have around here are my father and his side of the family. All I have is my boyfriends family, they dont treat me right either sometimes. I feel that I am pushed out of the way when it comes to my child no matter what i say or do. I have no clue what to do anymore. Me and my boyfriend do not get along anymore, I have no where to go or any help. I am stressed beyond my limit and feel worthless. The only thing that keeps me holding on and striving for the best is my beautiful son. I am in college trying to do the best I can so we can move away. If anyone feels that they can give any advice, please do, I just need some enlightment. There is alot more that I have not said, I have already typed so much, I thought that you all would get tired of reading it. Anyways thanks for your time