Stress - to Help Me              Reply to this Comment

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You don't say how old you are, but keep this in mind, this too shall pass and you'll soon be out of your abusive home. If you're in school, try to keep the best grades you can get a good job. I was once in your shoes. Do you have a school counselor, I think you should confide to and possibly try to get some counselling now. You might be setting yourself up for a lifetime of abusive relationships with men. This is what happens to women who come from broken, abusive homes. You don't need more pain from a boyfriend who treats you bad. You don't need crumbs of love. Do you have a relationship with God? Try to find a church you can belong to. Maybe you will find some caring people there and find some social outlets.

stress              Reply to this Comment

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im an age young and i need help reducing my stress

stress              Reply to this Comment

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well im 15 and have way too much on my mind to think about school work and my home life sux

stress              Reply to this Comment

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well im 15 and have way too much on my mind to think about school work and my home life sux

Family              Reply to this Comment

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I am 7 months pregnant, and in love with my fiance even though my family hates him. They have tried to accuse him of everything from being abusive and controlling (which is so far from the truth it is ridiculous) to stealing from them-- which what they said was stolen, was found exactly where they left it. I am 24 years old, and I have never been addicted to anything, I dont claim to have done everything right in my life, but I havent done anything terribly wrong, and the mistakes I have made, I own up to them. I have to deal with my father harassing my fiance's mother and threatening him and me. I feel like I am an adult, and they want me to have an arranged marriage. I feel as if nothing can fix this situation and I am caught in the middle between a family that claims they love and care about me so much, but all they do is stress me out, and all my fiance does is say he never wanted me to go through this and is sorry and that he will leave is I want him to. My fiance is the one who tries to give me a stress free, safe environment. Can anyone give me any advice to this situation? I feel like I am the adult and my family are the children. I have told them all I want is space at this time, I have assured them that I am in a safe place, but I dont want them to know where I am at for fear that they will come and harass me there. I need help, but I dont where to find it or what the solution is to this problem, any advice would be great. I always thought blood is thicker then water.but what if the blood is slowly poisoning you?

Depressed spouse              Reply to this Comment

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My spouse is a 23 yr old. female. She has been dealing with constant stress and depression issues lately. Not financial or social, mainly because her mother is verbally abusive to her and she has these inadvertent jealousy issues. She feels she's not good enough for me and that she doesn't make me happy. A few days ago her and her mothers house flooded and she is taking it very hard as just another block of stress added. She has had cheating issues in the past in our relationship but I have forgiven her continuously, and only because i love her soo much. I want her to seek help here where we live in Delaware so that our future together is not at stake. I am constantly playing the role of her therapist when she breaks down and cries and has these horribly sad episodes. I don't think I'm having any kind of an effect. If anyone knows of any counseling offices where we can go and find the person who I love soo much some immediate help or assistance, please post ASAP. Thank You

Help Me              Reply to this Comment

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Dear Help Me: By what you wrote I see you that you are suffering. I am 62 and I'll let you into a secret: we all suffer. Nothing wrong with that. The trick is not to give in to it. Play life like a game (a serious game but a game). You don't know your own powers. But you have them. To develop them swim against the current. What is "the current"? Your feelings of despondency and of powerlessness and of depression. When you go with "them negative feelings" they will drag you down. Swim against them by 1) willing yourself to do so 2) decide you are worth it (if you don't nobody will for you) 3) even though initially it will feel hollow, use positive thinking. Think and say good things about yourself no matter what is going on in your life. If you do this daily for 30 days you will begin to believe in yourself. 4) Keep this up no matter what.Be simple and natural. Whatever you do give it 110%. 5) and here is the only don't: don't feel sorry for yourself (no pity parties). 6) Decide what you want, plot your course and never give up. 7) All is illusion and temporal 8) Help others without hurting yourself or your family 9) Good Luck

Check this out - helped me              Reply to this Comment

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One of the most beautiful aspects of life is the relationship and love between a mother and child. To go through life without a mother's love can be difficult. The only thing I received from my mother was an addiction to gambling. As a baby to adulthood I was raised around gambling. During these frequent card games for money there was terrible language used, arguing, and fighting. I could play a hand of poker at the age of five -- Linda Sommer Farley Linda tells us what life was like for her growing up. She shares with us the trauma of having an abusive grandfather and a mother with a gambling addiction and how it effected her throughout her life. She expresses her embarrassment of growing up poor and the challenges she faced through out her school years due to her poverty. She wrote this book with the purest of intentions - to in some way help others. This book is available at: Amazon Germany.com, Barnes & Noble.com, Borders.com, ecampus.com,TextbooksRus.com,Waldenbooks.com, Collinsbooks.com.au, Foyles uk.com, and can also be ordered at Campusi.com.

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i am a 17 year old high school student living with a manic depressive mother and a manic depressive father who is in and out of the house. my mother doesnt listen to me or understand the things i have to deal with in her decision making. my brother has been in and out of jail since i can remember. i've been in a relationship with a quy i've been dating on and off for 3 years and i truly plan on marrying but i cant talk to him about things going on with my mother because he doesnt understand. he always tells me to stick up for myself and not to let my mom do and treat me the way she does but i still have more respect for her than that. nobody thinks i know how to deal with these kinds of things that im going thru at home but i've been dealing with it for the past 18 years and im still doing it.. why cant anybody understand that? i need somebody to talk to... rissa_1990@hotmail.com

NAMI              Reply to this Comment

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I suggest you try NAMI {National Alliance on Mental Illness}. It's obvious by your comment that you are effected by your parents mental illness. NAMI is a support group for people who have family, friends who have mental disorders. They offer family to family classes and peer to peer classes . NAMI can be quite benificial to you. It is confidential. And you will discover you are not alone in dealing with family members who ;have me;ntal disorders. Also , just because a person has a mental disorder DOES NOT give them a license or the right to treat you disrespectfully or "like dirt".For your sake look NAMI ukp in your local phone book, on the internet or call your local mental health agengy{YOU CAN CALL anonymously} for meeting timesand places. Good luck.

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Stressed              Reply to this Comment

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Please help i feel all alone i have been under so much stress i had a car wreck a year ago i got hurt really bad i fight with my boyfriend all the time he don't want to be with me anymore i been having pysologic seizures what do i do please email me at otis3034@aol.com

Relationship Issues              Reply to this Comment

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I love my boyfriend with all of my heart. To the point that I quit my job, sold my house, and moved 800 miles away to be with him. After 2 1/2 years he never tells me he loves me, never once has told me I was attractive to him, and now I feel so alone since I have no one to talk to anymore since I left all of my friends when I moved out here to be with him. Granted I call and talk to them over the phone, but it's so much more different to have a sholder to cry on. I have talked with him about the fact that it makes me uncomfortable that he never says I love you, or you look nice tonight... Nothing came from the discussion. Now I am flying off the handle on small stuff simply because all of the larger stuff has pretty much consumed me, and filled me with pain. I have a problem with disguising my hurt as anger, and I know why I do it... I just can't kick the habit to just come out and say "I feel like my heart is being ripped out my chest". When another man tells me that I'm attractive it hurts now. I don't care about the other man that finds me attractive as the only one I care about finding me attractive does not seem to. I cry myself to sleep often, and I skip meals all the time thinking about how alone I feel, and being angry with myself for ever making the decision to follow my heart. Should I seek therapy? I have self-esteem, and I know that I am not ugly, nor undesireable. I do love myself, and try to do the best at whatever I persue... I am just being crushed by this relationship with little to no love within it. His mother tells me he loves me, but it means nothing unless I can hear it from him. I'm about to leave him as this has got to the point that I can't take it anymore. If he can't express love, or interest in me then I need to move on. flowercivic@yahoo.com

depression              Reply to this Comment

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please talk to a counselor and talk about depression. there is a medication. than you will have self esteem to do lots around the home. don;t let a husband talk down to you. he has no value of himself.

stress              Reply to this Comment

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its hard for me to get anyone to understand . why i do drugs but all truth that keeps me from going krazy ... i stress so much its hard not to do just that