It is a known saying that couples who are actively enjoying and living their lives are having far too much fun to be simply talking about it all the time. On the other side, it is commonly known that those couples who are obsessed with improving their relationships need first to talk about it.

    Couples therapy addresses the many issues related to being involved in a meaningful relationship.

    Relationships don’t just thrive because the couple wants it to.

Relationships need careful attention and require a lot of hard work to grow and develop into fruition.

    Today, relationships are not always simple. Simplistic ideas of true love don’t always apply. Instead there are difficult emotions of interrelated aspects of love, hate, envy, jealousy, aggression, rivalry, domination/control, submission, perversion, pre-oedipal/oedipal conflicts, just to name a few.

    Couple therapy delves into the inner working of the mind.  It is a deeply emotional experience, complete with intense communication and feelings that come up among three persons, the couple and the therapist


Why do couples stay together through thick and thin?

• Those who have had a traumatic experience are programmed to bond with a painful internal object that is familiar.
• Some prefer to bond in pain rather than to have to deal with a void or dark hole. They refer to this as the emptiness.
• Pain brings back a host of unresolved childhood issues.
• Pain can become very much eroticized/sexualized.
• Pain becomes familiar (familiar internal bad object)
• Pain becomes confusing. The significant other who is both be cruel and sadistic will also be loving and kind.
• Pain can be linked to al part of self that another may want to destroy, hence abuse issues develop.

    Couples who are committed to working out their differences find there is a lot of soul searching required. There is homework and far more than just a visit to the couch.

    Couples therapy works to bring harmony and tranquillity to a relationship and makes existing bonds even stronger.

    When children are involved in a relationship they can be called in on sessions towards the end. This allows for family bonding and gives the children insight into how to they can contribute to their mom and dad’s recovery issues.